A woman’s friends have a huge influence on how she will perceive you, so it’s crucial that you stay on their good side. Most of her girlfriends will give you a fair shot, but if you’re unlucky you may stumble upon a friend who has it in for you.

So what do you do when you are dealing with a hateful friend? The first thing you need to do is evaluate the situation: Are you treating your woman well? Does this hateful friend of hers have a legitimate beef with you? If her concern about you is legitimate, then you have to change your behavior in order to change her opinion of you.

But if you are on your best behavior and this friend of hers still hates you, then it’s time for action. Below are 10 sneaky -- but effective -- strategies for defusing her hateful friend. These tactics are surefire ways to soften her up and get her to be on your side.

Sparkle in her presence
A woman usually confides to her girlfriend about the negative aspects of her relationship. If her friend hears overwhelmingly bad stuff about you, then you need to counteract this by coming across as a good guy every time she’s around. Be in your best form -- be upbeat and humorous around all of her friends and make sure you're not in a bad mood before hanging out with them. But be careful not to suck up -- this will only make you appear desperate for approval and untrustworthy.

Look for ways to bond with her
Get her to see you for the nice guy you are by starting a project with her that will allow you to spend time together. This works especially well if the project involves doing something special for your girlfriend. Organize a surprise party for your woman and enlist the help of her friend. You can also get tipsy with her and ask for some insider’s advice on your girlfriend. Hopefully, this will help deconstruct her guard and give the two of you a chance to become friends. But be careful not to appear as though you are hitting on her during any of these bonding sessions, which will only have the opposite effect on your relationship.

Listen to her when she talks
You don’t want to give her the impression that you are tolerating her only for the sake of your girlfriend (even if that’s the case). The best way to achieve this is by engaging in a genuine conversation with her. Make an effort to remember details about her and bring them up in later conversations. This will show that you sincerely want to form a friendship with her -- and she’ll notice.

Be chivalrous
When you go to open the door or to take your girlfriend’s coat, don’t forget to do the same for her friend. Being a gentleman is a simple, low-effort way to get her friend on your side. Always make sure to give a little more attention to your girlfriend and don’t go overboard with chivalry if it’s really not in your personality -- it will look forced, and both your girl and her hateful friend will see right through it.

Demonstrate your affections in front of her
Let her hateful friend see you treat your woman with affection. This doesn’t mean that you should slobber all over her or perform other unsightly PDA in front of her friend, but do make it apparent that you care for your special girl by giving her compliments or by putting your arm around her. Your girlfriend’s friend wants her to be loved and appreciated. If she sees you giving your girlfriend extra attention, she’ll think good things about you. Let her hateful friend see you treat your girlfriend the way she deserves to be treated and she'll have no reason to disapprove of you.

Perform a boyfriend-type task for her
You want your girl’s hateful friend to think that you are a dependable guy. Helping her out with a "boyfriend-type" task is a good way of letting her know that both she and your woman can depend on you. Help her move, fix her car or install her air conditioner, but don’t make it seem like you are doing it to gain her approval. Let her benefit from your manly know-how, but make sure you let everyone know that you are doing these favors because you love your girlfriend or you might end up with a jealousy problem.
if all else fails…If you've tried all of the above tactics and you're still getting the hate vibe from your girlfriend's friend, there is no better way to handle the situation than with a head-to-head tactic. There are two ways to do this:

Discuss your concern with your woman
If her hateful friend is starting to cause problems between you and your girl, it’s time to speak up. Have a conversation about it with your girlfriend in a calm and gentle manner to let her know that you are concerned that her friend is not giving you a fair shot despite your genuine efforts. Be careful to avoid any trash talk about her friend. This will make your woman feel like she has to choose -- and she may choose her friend.

Address the issue head on with the hateful friend
If you see that her beef with you is irrational and none of the above tactics have been successful, you might have to address the issue head on with the hateful friend. Sit down with her and calmly explain that you have been trying your best to have a friendly relationship with her, but you don’t feel she is responding. You can also mention that it would be in your girlfriends best interest that the two of you make an effort to like each other, since you are both important to her.
can't we all just get along?With the implementation of the above tactics, some social skills and a little luck, her hateful friend will not only soften up toward you, she may even become your biggest fan. And remember this: If her friends like you, your woman will care for you even more.